Unsubscribing from negativity

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It would be easy to turn an article about Joe Dispenza and his ideas into a book. I won’t go into great detail, all I want is let people know that this man exists, that he publishes books, and that he changes people’s lives.

Given my personal experiences over the previous year, the healing process has been difficult and intense. I won’t go into detail again, but suffice it to say that I feel ten years older… And wiser, I’m not going to be modest about it.

I’ve done a lot of research lately, talked to a lot of different people, asked questions, watched videos and tried different things to see what might work for me. Some things helped, such as therapy, eating healthier (which is hard, no doubt), spending time outside, and reading the right books.

I heard about Joe Dispenza a few months ago and at first I wasn’t sure if his vision would work or not for me. There is room for everyone on the Internet, and it can be hard to find the right perspective for you. While watching interviews with him on YouTube, I resonated more and more with his approach and eventually I wanted to read his books.

The key point that got my attention was that our emotions, or what we often refer to as „emotions,” are actually the outcome of different biological processes. For example, when we feel fear, our bodies have already started producing cortisol. When we experience rage, envy, or other negative emotions, the same thing takes place. Our thoughts cause our bodies to produce hormones that have an impact on both our current quality of life and our long-term health.

On the other hand, the same thing occurs when our bodies produce serotonin, dopamine, or oxytocin in response to happy thoughts.

Therefore, from this perspective, by controlling our thoughts, we can control our daily wellbeing and health. After learning more about his ideas, I’ve decided to start a daily detox plan for food, people, and situations.

It’s not easy to get rid of 30 years-old practices & patterns, but to do this, you need to be aware of your thoughts & actions all the time. This way, through constant training and determination, you can eliminate your old habits and transform your mindset. It’s all neuroplasticity.

For example:


We can choose to never see some people again, but with others, we just need to rethink our approach. People are who they are, but we can change the perspective by figuring out why they act the way they do. This will help us become a detached observer.

If we think of a super controlling colleague/ relative/ friend who is always eager to talk, to be heard, to be seen, and to be applauded, and who is constantly pushing others away just to be the only voice in the room, keep one thing in mind: it is not about you. It’s their insecurities, their need for validation, and perhaps even a desperate cry for love. Our background contains many past traumas that influence our current behavior in ways we are rarely aware of.

So, if you feel angry or annoyed in a certain situation, immediately become aware of your feelings and replace them with a new thought: this person’s behaviour shows their limits and frustrations, which have nothing to do with you. You don’t know about their past or how happy they really are in their lives right now.


In this instance, I think things are a little bit simpler. If we can’t avoid every person who affects our wellbeing, it is usually easier to simply remove yourself from a toxic environment. You can easily explain that the current tone makes you feel uncomfortable and ask to leave a conversation or debate where people start acting bossy, sardonic, or passive-aggressively.


Although fried potatoes, burgers, pizzas, or schnitzels may be your first option when you think of the perfect meal, stop for a moment and choose vegetables, fish or white meat instead. Drink plenty of water throughout the day and experiment in the kitchen until you discover new combinations that make you as happy as fast food did.

And the list can continue with sport, sleep, personal-professional balance and so on.

Therefore, changing our mindset and habits is clearly not easy, and you may frequently surprise yourself by thinking in the old way. It’s only through consistent practice that we will be able to change our minds and behaviour. Just don’t give up and keep negative emotions and thoughts at bay.

Keep in mind that whenever you allow a negative thought to alter your emotions, your body has already produced stress hormones that have infiltrated your system.

Take care!

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