Well-being – the right thoughts, words and actions

Tons of texts have been written about well-being, good food and positive thoughts. But for many of us, it is only until an unpleasant situation hits us that we really start thinking about our well-being.

When things are going well, we don’t even think about our well-being – we’re fine already, right? But when things go wrong, we realize how fragile we are, how fragile our relationships are and how uncertain things generally are. This is often a turning point in our life – our perspective shifts and our hopes, expectations and mindset are either altered or on the verge of alteration. We can’t go back to being the same people we were before the event and this is usually the moment we decide to make some lifestyle changes.

Of course, it’s hard to see it in the heat of the moment, and nobody should expect miracles right away. It takes time and determination, patience and perseverance, and frequently a therapist to help you clear your thoughts.

The right approach

There are numerous authors with numerous perspectives. We can’t read them all, and we can’t test each method to see if it works for us. However, a little research could lead us to the right philosophy. Joe Dispenza was a revelation for me, and after a while I discovered other authors with the same vision to round out my readings. More on this subject I have written in “Unsubscribing from negativity”.

The first steps towards change

Changes take time – It’s not easy to get rid of 30 years-old practices & patterns, but to do this, you need to be aware of your thoughts & actions all the time. This way, through constant training and determination, you can eliminate your old habits and transform your mindset. It’s all neuroplasticity.

Perseverance and constant training – Your favourite books or podcasts won’t solve your problems, and neither will your first sessions with a therapist. Finding a vision suitable for you means putting it into action every day. For example, if you want to stop a certain behaviour (like feeling jealous, critical, or even aggressive toward other people), you need to be aware of the negative feeling/ thought as soon as it happens and replace it with a positive one. The new thought will lead to new actions, and as time goes on, the old you will be replaced by a new you.

Understanding that emotions are chemical discharges in our bodies – As mentioned in “Unsubscribing from negativity”, it is essential for us to understand that our emotions, or what we often refer to as „emotions,” are actually the outcome of different biological processes. When we feel fear, our bodies have already started producing cortisol. When we experience rage, envy, or other negative emotions, the same thing takes place. Our thoughts cause our bodies to produce hormones that have an impact on both our current quality of life and our long-term health.

Drive positive thoughts into consciousness – Our emotional life is determined by our thoughts, which in turn determine our physical condition. As a result, we have complete control over our well-being, from the way we think to the way we speak and behave. If our negative emotions are in fact toxic hormones that spread throughout our bodies, the same thing occurs in response to our happy thoughts: our bodies produce serotonin, dopamine, or oxytocin.

This is not an easy mission, especially because the human mind “reacts to bad things more quickly, strongly and persistently than to the equivalent good things. (…) Our minds are wired to find and react to threats, violations and setbacks.” (“The Happiness Hypothesis”, by Jonathan Haidt). But, while this made sense 10,000 years ago when humanity faced serious threats, we must now shift our focus to a more modern approach.

First and foremost, for our own health and well-being.

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